|Vendors selling their goods outside a metro station|
This quote now seems like a very North American sentiment. Work hard, pay your dues, save, raise your family, wait for "the golden years"... then at age 52 or 65 or 70 you can retire and follow your passions. It was the story I heard my whole life. In Alaska I met lots of university students in their 50s and 60s and beyond. The Spanish intercambio group that my mother attends in Oregon attracts several older folks. One recent foreign teacher here in Kharkov was in her 50s. But most people over 60 in Ukraine seem to have a different view of things. I don't know anyone that age who dreams of going back to school or picking up a new hobby or traveling the country. At that age most people have settled deeply into their lives and talk about devoting the remainder of their lives to their family. Grandmothers dedicate their existence to their grandchildren, and yes, while that's common in the US as well, most American grandparents have other goals in life outside of family. Maybe travel or yoga or genealogy or volunteer work. My maternal grandparents were active throughout their 80s in the local Lions club and a nearby community center.
This is a bit of a personal issue for us too, as D's parents turn down our suggestions for getting involved in the community or further education and instead feel that their place is staying home and focusing on their family. Sometimes I'll hear something along the lines of "it's too late for us to do that stuff" from them. It makes me feel sad to hear this because- true or not- there's that part of the American dream that says it's never too late. In their case though, it's one of those tragic tales where you do everything right and then the country falls apart on you and everything you worked for is gone. You paid all your taxes as a patriot and then bam! it's a new country. Your pension, your savings? Oh, yeah, we'll work something out for you. But still, even with the cost of living being what it is, it's hard to survive on $100 USD a month.
What I see in young Ukrainians (age 25 - 45) is people getting as much out of life as they can. They're not waiting for some fabled golden years, an ideal time where you can relax and take the time to do what you've put off all of these years. People here understand that it's now or never, that when they're older they will have probably neither the chance nor the capacity. People look at their grandparents selling flowers and apples outside the metro and they understand that this, only this, is their moment.
Ukraine life expectancy: male 62, female 73
US life expectancy: male 75, female 80